Monday, September 15, 2014

I Don't Want To Be a REAL Adult!!

I think people would agree that my whimsical sense of style reflects the fact that I just don't EVER want life to get REAL on me........wise people say stuff like, "that is when you learn the most"....I say stuff like, "I already know everything so leave me alone or I'll tell my Mom on you"

I have TECHNICALLY been an adult for almost 15 years, but I have never really felt like a real adult.

Well, up until a couple weeks ago.

This whole "build a house" thing kinda blew up in our faces :-/

We sold and moved out of our house and then moved in with my parents thinking that we were close to finalizing our home plans and breaking ground.

NOT the case.

The ENTIRE month of August we THOUGHT we had a builder and we actually DIDN'T.

Kind of hard to build a house when your builder is MIA.

It took about 4 weeks to figure out what in the world was going on.

Then, life got REAL and I had to be an adult about it. Gross.

We realized we were homeless, and builder-less, and didn't have access to the plans that we had paid for and had nearly finished!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My first reaction was to cry and be all "I just want to go HOMMMMME!"
BUT I couldn't just go home because I sold my home.
I contemplated moving back in with the new owner.
The woman who bought our home is nice and all, and obviously has great taste, but I don't think she wants me to move in with her at this point in our relationship.

Anyway, my next feeling was anger/rage.
BUT then I realized that I didn't know the whole story and getting pissed at someone and threatening to ruin their life BEFORE you know the whole story can make you look like a senseless, self centered fool, and that isn't my style. Well, most of the time it isn't. I typically reserve that side of myself for my husband. Mostly so that he feels like he won the lottery every time he comes home to me.

I eventually resolved to put on my big-girl panties and call my attorney so that we could figure out what in the freaking world had happened.

I will save you all from the entire, very long story, and just say that LIFE HAPPENS.
Even though it sucks to be on the receiving end of someone else's life happening to them, it is still wise to remain calm and collected while your attorney sorts everything out.
It is also wise to invest in a few barrels of wine and a new pair of shoes.

We are in the midst of finding a new builder and getting our hands on our plans.

So, that is how far along we have come in the building process since it all began LAST APRIL!

BUT let's look at the POSITIVES:

1. We weren't in the middle of building our house. Better to lose a builder early on than at any other point.
2.  I am suddenly more educated on the whole legal end of the process.
3. We are much more aware of the fact that the ground freezes in the winter, which is coming upon us faster than I can restock the wine barrels!!!
4. All the stress has me back at the gym!!
5. I didn't hurt anyone OR land in jail as my husband feared.
6. I wanted to build a house for the experience and knowledge and to be able to share it all with you.... I will leave you with another very important home building tip.....HIRE AN ATTORNEY.

It's just a good idea to have an attorney review EVERYTHING that you sign. Not because there are builders everywhere trying to screw people, but because bad things and life just happen.
Building a house involves LOTS of steps and LOTS of people.
Something is likely to get sticky with at least one of those steps or one of those people.

We are all hoping that this is the extent of my REAL adulthood experience.

I'm gonna go put on my tutu and eat ice cream for breakfast now.


  1. I love your positive, entirely grown-up way of reflecting on your situation!
    I also think that more adults should split an ice cream cake with their friends for breakfast. Life is just way more fun when those cards are on the table.

    I love you. To me, we'll always be 14.


  2. I love reading your blog! This is the "New Owner" and yes you can come live with me, so long as you bring the wine barrel! And our home is beautiful, because you spent endless hours designing it! So Thank You!

  3. This being an adult thing is not really all that its cracked up to be. Like your positive attitude!!


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